Oct 24, 2018

A long one ...

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When talking about bullying issues and the school policy with my students, I get pretty passionate. I emphasize the repetitious nature of attacks, big or small, verbal or electronic that have a student living life “braced” at all times. Constantly feeling the need to defend themselves makes them not want to go to school. I’ll be honest and say that I feel bullied by parents! On Monday I literally had to CONVINCE myself to go to school; I’ll save you the inner monologue, but “uuuuugggghhhhh!!!” was the final thought as I grabbed my keys to go.

It’s not necessarily one parent in particular, but these helicopter parents and their CONSTANT attacks have me living life “braced” against every parent email and phone call. They complain that things are last minute and then in the next sentence complain that their high school kid couldn’t remember something they signed up for because it was too far in advance; they email at midnight on a Sunday to pick apart a referral and phone call home from Friday by listing in bullet point form what I did wrong and everything their kid says is wrong with my class; they call/email the principal/VP/counselor for a meeting to complain about grades and grading policy but never call or email for clarification from me or ask what their kid has done or not done for their grade. It is always my fault. I’m pretty tired of last minute being ok for them but not for me! I am tired of them being able to use “my kid has anxiety” and “my kid has ADD” but when I inform my boss and school psychologist that I HAVE THOSE SAME ISSUES (legit medicated for it), I am told it comes off as an excuse and I can’t use that or ask for accommodations. If a kid with ADD/anxiety said he would be more successful with his study hall at the beginning of the day because of the timing of his meds, we would jump to meet his needs, but I can’t ask for my prep to be in the first half of the day because that would be special treatment. I am overwhelmed. There’s 150 of them and one of me.

I am constantly treading water, and they just hand me more bricks to hold; and when I tread water with the bricks, they complain that I don’t hold the bricks right while doing it.

Uuuuugggghhhhhhh!!!

 

Whew! Thanks

Mar 19

I HATE helicopter parents. I also hate "mama bear" type parents who go to the admin without giving a thought to contacting ME first. I just had a "mama bear" a few weeks ago whose kid has diabetes and is on an insulin pump. Well, apparently, I made "suggestions" about how to treat her diabetes when I only asked if she is allowed to have a sucker as a treat. This same mother also got bent out of shape because I keep a list of absent and missing work on my whiteboard because I, too, have ADD and paper lists get lost and thrown away. No student on my board is in trouble and this diabetes student knows this and so do ALL my students. They ALL know it's just a checklist for me because of my ADD. By the way, this student with diabetes is sometimes on partial homebound because of her condition. But anyway, she didn't like that, she thought I was making "suggestions" to her child about how to deal with her diabetes, and what's more is that I was accused of making negative comments about how often her child is absent from school (which I have not done). But did this "mama bear" bitch come to me about ANY of this? No. She goes to my principal and I get to be hauled in and schooled on shit that I already know (partial homebound and what it is...blah blah blah), how to collect and accept her make up work (everything we ALREADY do), not to count it late or zero until it's been turned in (again, already don't count it late), and "do not put [daughter's] name on the board" and "do not make suggestions about how to treat (daughter)'s diabetes" and "do not make negative comments about her being absent." Oh, and to put salt in the wound? I was told to "work on the relationship with this student" AND THERE WAS NOTHING WRONG WITH ANYTHING TO BEGIN WITH. And what's worse, is my admin didn't even ask the parent if she had spoken with me first and he also didn't ask to have BOTH of us in there. ALL of this was unnecessary and a complete waste of my fucking time, not to mention the fact that I made myself SICK over what my admin could want to "discuss" with me all morning to the point I couldn't eat lunch. So I understand your frustration completely and I say fuck those types of parents. I'm a 6th year and the longer I teach the more I hate the helicopters and mama bears.

 

By the way, regarding your ADD/ADHD, it is recognized by the ADA as a LEGITIMATE disability that negatively affects your job, and you have a RIGHT to ask for your accommodations, regardless of what they think. I think you should talk to your HR about this and research what you need to do.

I feel you...opening my email gives me anxiety and I hate conference night.

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